If you’ve ever had anyone go through the grieving process, then you know it’s hard. You honestly want to be there for that person. You share a warm hug and even cry because you hurt too, but sometimes that may not be enough. There’s a long way words can go in quenching the soul. However, the fear of saying something wrong could hold back any form of response. Unfortunately, you end up being the ‘mean’ and ‘uncaring’ person whereas you just didn’t know what to say.
In times like this, it’s best to seek the advice of experts who deal with people on a daily basis. Through their years of study, they have been able to help break down the human emotions in ways that help you understand even yourself. For instance, realising that your anxiety issues could be traced back to your parents can help you find a solution to it. Finding a cause can help you reach a solution. In this case, you can resolve any fear of saying the wrong word by sending it.
Dr Danielle Forshee, Psy.D, LCSW explains,
“A lot of times, acquaintances feel uncomfortable with how to reach out or what to say when there’s a loss. That discomfort can come through if you’re sending a DM versus reaching out on their cell phone.” As little as a text may seem, it can go a long way in cheering someone up or simply helping them express their grieve.
There are strategic ways of sending a text message to someone grieving, and below are examples of text messages you can send.
Best text messages to send to someone grieving
1. According to Dr Forshee you first need to point out the situation. After that, you should empathise. Then you can express how you feel about it.
“I heard about your loss and I know that you’re going through a difficult time right now. I’m here.”
2. Also, remember to empathise and let them know that you’ll be there if they need your help.
“I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. If you need anything, please let me know.”
3. Knowing that someone will check in on them even if they don’t want to means someone cares that much. It gives a certain level of comfort that they aren’t alone.
“I know that you’re going through a tough time. I also went through this. I’m going to check in with you.”
4. A person grieving would feel consoled knowing that you’ll cater to their needs.
“I want to make you a week’s worth of food. What’s your favourite food?”
5. Knowing that whenever they feel like talking, someone is willing to listen helps them feel better.
“I know what you’re going through and, if you need to talk, I am here for you always.”
6. A simple message strikes a lot of meaning.
“I know this is hard, and I love you.”
7. Being strong (or acting strong) may be good at noon but at night and in the morning, it can get tough. “Morning is a difficult time,” Dr Forshee explains.
“If you need anyone to sleep over, I’m here for you.”
8. Be persistent even with one text message.
“I’m here to listen and talk whenever you need, even if that’s a year from now.”