Wedding planning can take a toll on couples; it can be messy and even those of us who think we are calm can get really stressed out resulting in negative feelings.
These feelings can not only take away from our planning process and the big day itself, but they can also affect our relationships with the people close to us.
Because you should never let this phase of your life create negativity that enters into your married life; we highlight eight things that couples should avoid during wedding planning below.
1. Expecting perfection
This is the most important pitfall to avoid when you’re planning your wedding. Your wedding will not be perfect, it just won’t. It will be magical, lovely, joyful, and everything you hoped it would be but it won’t be perfect.
If you can accept that during wedding planning, you’ll be so much happier. Otherwise, no matter what you and the people around you are doing, it won’t feel like enough.
2. Thinking it should be everyone’s priority
Your wedding may be one of the most important days for you and your partner, and it’s also hugely important for your friends and family. But they still have their own lives.
When planning a wedding, it’s easy to want things done now, to put all of your energy into organising. And that’s fine for you; it’s your life. But sometimes we start to treat our friends and family like our wedding should be their number one priority as well.
One may get angry if they don’t reply fast enough or get resentful of their scheduling conflicts. You can ask for the support of your close friends to run errands, but if they turn you down, don’t get angry, it’s not their wedding so you need to respect that they have their own priorities and their own lives.
3. Taking on too much
While some people demand too much from the people around them, others expect far too much of themselves. If you find yourself taking on every tiny detail, try to breathe and take a step back. There are people who care about you, let them help. Assign roles if your friends and family are willing to help.
4. Getting competitive
Maybe your best friend’s dress cost a fortune or maybe you’ve cute photos of a destination wedding. It’s easy to want to have a better hairstyle or location than other weddings you’ve seen.
But the truth is, there’s always going to be someone out there with a bigger wedding. Try to let go of what you’ve seen other people do and focus on what’s right for you and your partner.
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5. Breaking the budget
It’s tempting to have a big blowout for your one day. And, unfortunately, the wedding industry, society, and pretty much everything in the universe encourages you to just go for it because you only get one day. But getting yourself into debt for your wedding just isn’t worth it. You don’t want to avoid starting out marriage in the red zone.
6. Putting on a happy face
Sometimes, as we plan our weddings, there’s a need to let everyone know how great you’re doing, how amazing it all is, and how excited you are. Let yourself off the hook. Planning a wedding is stressful and even if you hate every single minute of it, that doesn’t make you a bad fiancée or mean that you’ll be a bad wife. Let people in. Let them know when you’re stressed, struggling, or just not enjoying it. They’re there for you.
7. Forgetting to compromise
No matter how much you and your partner thought you were on the same page about what you wanted, planning a wedding brings up every inconsistency. Try to stay on the same page, listen to each other’s suggestions. Try not to get angry and remember, marriage is all about compromise.
8. Putting your relationship on hold
It’s easy to get so involved in wedding planning that you lose sight of what the wedding is about: you, your partner, and your relationship. Keep your relationship alive, do non-wedding activities and try to find time together
It’s OK if you find wedding planning more stressful than you expected or if it affects you in surprising ways. Remember, it doesn’t have to be perfect, because there is no such thing as the perfect wedding.
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