Love is very hard to define, and that’s why there isn’t one particular definition of love. It is subjective to the bearer and the moment. For instance, your definition of love when you’re dating would be different from when you’re on your honeymoon.
It can also be hard to determine if your emotion is love or lust. This is because most of the emotions you feel when you lust over someone is similar to when you’re in love with someone. But love is more than lust, more than the s****l feeling and more emotional. If s*x is taken out of the equation, it still exists.
A lot of people have at one point in their lives felt this way. And if you haven’t just yet, you will. You just need to understand that it’s not the ‘boy meets girl’ and ‘boy and girl fall in love’ kind of experience. It is a choice that can be made. You can generate the emotion once you focus on that’s person goodness, their positive attribute. You just need to trust someone and let that person in to create room for that ever-desired emotion.
Five Captivating Emotions From Love Birds
1. “It surpasses that s****l/physical connection.”
Love just completely surpasses that s****l/physical connection. When you look at someone and they just get you, they know your needs, and your wants and both of you put each others’ happiness above your own. There’s a level of respect and trust and affection when you are in love that is staggering. It’s just warmth, and a feeling of being completely safe and also completely vulnerable at the same time.
2. “It’s affection. It’s friendship”
Well, it’s not the lust and infatuation that so many people mistake for love. It’s closeness. It’s being comfortable with who they are, and being comfortable to be yourself with them. It’s affection. It’s friendship. It’s knowing that you want this person to be a part of your life for the rest of your life.
3. “It’s like being born again”
Love is one of those words that has a different meaning for everyone. Being in love is different from loving someone. When you are in love with someone, it’s like this rush of being born again. Your world changes. At first, it is extremely overwhelming and a bit scary because you have no idea what these new feelings are, and how or what to do with them. I thought I had found love with previous boyfriends until I met my current boyfriend.
He has changed my life and I am so grateful. I think being in love means that you are connected with someone on all levels: physically, emotionally, spiritually. It’s the feeling that even though you just met them, you feel like you’ve known them your entire life. He is my lover, my best friend, my motivation and my strength. He knows me better than myself and I am so lucky to have met this man.
4. “Love is when you accept someone for who they are”
My definition of love is perhaps somewhat different to what most people might consider. First of all I think you should learn to accept someone for not just what you THINK they are. Accept the good with the bad. If you really love someone, you will love the real them and not just this idea you have of them. Forget about looks. Forget about your expectations of what this guy/girl is.
5. “Love is unconditional”
It’s permanent, for me at least. At its very core, it’s unconditional. You come to love that person so much that you would do just about anything for them. It sounds melodramatic, but you wouldn’t think twice about taking a bullet for them.
Romantic love is acceptance. Acceptance of who they really are, not who you’d like them to be, and what they are is what you’d like them to be! You wouldn’t want them any other way. You have no illusions about their failings.
They are a part of you, even when you don’t want them to be. Once you’ve been a part of that bond, it never completely goes away. That’s what makes love so terrifying. It’s the permanence of it. You can move on and not want to be with them anymore. But in a fucked up way you still associate them with home, even when it’s not home anymore. It’s so irrational sometimes, it’s kind of dangerous if you don’t have a good head on you. I think that’s where self-love comes in.
Love is all kinds of things. It’s good and bad. It can fill you with desperation and torment or contentment and positivity. When it’s going well, the world is just that much brighter. When it ends, it’s weird to think that you can both be in the world but not together. It just feels so wrong. Luckily you move past it but you also become guarded and afraid of it.