You may try to give off a ‘hard guy’ or ‘tough lady’ persona to your partner, but the fact is that deep down you want something more. If your relationship is on a rocky stage or you feel like you shouldn’t even start in the first place, then you can test how compatible you are with the right questions asked.
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A relationship bond between a couple is one criterion to a long-lasting relationship. It means knowing why your partner is acting the way he is, and also when exactly he will sneeze. Okay, it takes some special bond to know that, but there’s no limit to how much you can know your partner.
Without making yourself completely vulnerable to hurt, there are quick and easy ways to achieve just that. First, if a vulnerability is top on your worry list, then you need to rethink how much you trust that person. To establish trust, you need to communicate more.
In communicating, you can know their deepest fear and the extent of your partner’s love for you. You would also get to know how compatible you truly are. Added to that list are things like your partner’s likes, dislikes, personality, hobbies, emotional behaviour or talents.
Rather than sounding like a broken record with the “How are you?”, or “What’s your favourite food?”, spice up the Q & A session with fun questions. Having the right questions would make you both connect on a deeper level besides the “Have you eaten?”
Know your partner better with these 15 Fun Questions
1. If you could relive one year of your life, which one would it be and why?
Asking this would help you know either the best or worst year of your partner’s life. For the best, they want to relive that memory, while for the worst, they may hope to correct the mistakes they made. It would help you know more about their past – either the best or worst year they ever lived.
2. What makes you nervous?
It may be something small like losing yourself (cue in a sappy song). Or maybe they’re afraid of talking in front of a crowd. Just prepare to be understanding.
3. What is the one thing that gets you excited about life?
To get to know what drives your partner, you should ask this question. It could be their family, ambition or maybe even you.
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4. What is the best thing about how your parents raised you?
Asking this would help you know how your partner feels about their family. No matter what they say (negative or otherwise) don’t say anything negative about their family.
5. What is the greatest lesson you have learned from previous relationships?
This would help you know what your partner expects from you and your relationship together. It would also help you know what they don’t like.
6. Do you follow your heart or mind when making decisions?
If they say their heart, then your partner is a feeler who lets their emotions guide their decisions. If your partner picks their mind, then they are a rational person who is a thinker. However, if they say they use both, then that’s fine, but one has to rule over the other. Or maybe you could add the third option of asking your partner, “Do you follow your p****?” just for laughs.
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7. Which is the best way to end a long day?
If you have ever wondered how to plan a date without making a mistake, then this is one way to go about it. When you ask this, you get to know what they like doing the most, especially after a long day. You can plan an after-work date that involves these things. It could be spending time together, drinking wine and chatting, or reading a collection of their favourite books together. Or you could just enjoy a quick nap while cuddling.
8. What makes you angry?
Ask this now! There’s nothing like knowing what triggers anger in a partner. Ask this and tell them your reason as well to ensure you’re both at par with each other. Everyone gets angry, but knowing what causes it would help you apply more control.
9. What advice would you give to your younger self?
This is a way of knowing if they have regrets. You would also get to know their past and how they were as kids. It would help you know any silly decisions made while younger.
10. What is something you are glad you will never have to do again?
You should ask this to know the best and worst versions of your partner.
11. What makes you different from most people?
There’s nothing wrong with being different, so asking this is fine. You would know more about how your partner feels. They might be egoistical or humble.
12. If money did not matter, where would you live?
It’s important to ask this as it would help you know how adventurous your partner is. It would also help you know what would happen if and when you stumble upon billions. Never say never.
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13. What would you do if you won or miraculously got a billion naira?
Don’t expect them to say “Give it to you of course”. However, you never know with this question. But the goal is to help you know the kind of person your partner is and what they value. They might want to quit their job and either start a business or travel the world. Or they might say they would donate it. Whatever your partner says should let you know what they truly value.
14. What is something you probably should do, but will never?
When asking this also ask why they never will. Listen to what your partner has to say as this would help you know what challenges they are facing. Then you can try motivating them to achieve it.
15. Describe your perfect day?
What better way is there to know what your partner likes than to ask this. This would also help you know how to plan the perfect date.
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